Who has the Best Sex?

“Who has the best sex?

“Who has the best sex?

Those who have the best and most united relationships!

Who has these relationships?

Those who worship God as He asks, weekly or more!

Sex is all about life and love. Life (existence) and love are of the essence of God.  The closer man is to Him the more he thrives. That is good spiritual direction. It is also good social science!

The great paradox in the social sciences today is that most social scientists in the academy seem to make the universe orbit around sex but refuse to go where the data on “the best sex” lead: to the intact married family that worships God weekly.  The most recent work of one of the world’s leading sociologists, Brad Wilcox of the University of Virginia, and the team of social scientists he pulled together from BYU and Georgetown, have given the academic world yet another major lesson in the fundamentals of sex, of living and of thriving.

By writing in the New York Times and in the team’s new report, “Ties that Bind”, released this week at The Brookings Institute, many more “in the middle or to the left” should see these data. This should help change the debate on campus.

My way of summing up the report is that across families of the world there is a  J-Curve pattern in the results: at the lower end of the ’ J’ lie the better results of united “progressive” couples while the best results, lying at the upper end of the J, are those of the united “traditional” couples, especially on matters of relationship quality and sexual satisfaction.

On this cluster of issues, the data is constant.  I presented to a college audience in Princeton (the posters “Who has the best sex?” drew a great crowd) in the early 2000’s.  There I used similar results — from “Sex in America: A Definitive Survey” (1994) which drew its data from the National Health and Social Life Survey (U. Chicago and SUNY). The results then: ose who were virginal at marriage and worshipped weekly (a rather traditional group) reported the greatest sexual satisfaction in a similar J-curve fashion.

Mapping America, MARRI’s own project, shows national demographic correlations on myriad outcomes, to be seen in the report “Sexuality” with a sub-section reporting ten different sexual outcomes, this time with four different levels of worship (weekly, monthly, annually, none). On all ten outcomes the “most traditional” do best. And, by and large, the more frequently people worship, the better they do.

Life, love and the Creator go together!  This is something all cultures have embodied — universally. The force of natural law, and the suffering its violation will entail, will bring many back to sanity.  You cannot fool mother nature. However, as an old teacher of mine used to say: “The school of experience is a great school, its fees are mighty high.” Let us go for the gold and follow the data – to the best sex, the best relationships — all to be had by those who marry and worship God weekly!

For the good of the child, the future of the world,

Pat Fagan


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